I will admit I lie. However it is only to my mom. I only lie to my mom because I have been pushed to that point. Every time I wanted to do something with friends, I wanted to go hang out with my boyfriend, or just any time i wanted to do anything in general, her answer was no. I had never given her a reason to believe I'd do anything bad or get into trouble. I was a straight A student, always did what was asked of me, a pretty good kid for the most part.
My mom thought differently. I was treated as if I'd gotten away with murder and she was the only one that knew about it. I couldn't do anything. So if I wanted to have friends or hang out and have fun, I'd have to lie. She wouldn't even know my friends and she'd tell me I couldn't hang out with them. Why? Beats me. So to her, I lie. And occasionally, that lie would flutter across to my Dad, which I felt awful about and had to tell him the truth anyways, but I felt as though I had to lie to her so that I could have a somewhat normal life.
I wouldn't lie to my friends, ever. Why would I have to? If they're true friends, they won't care why I cant hang out, or why I don't want to talk about something, they'll just be there for when I do. They don't punish me for trying to be normal or for having a bad day.
Lies have changed me in the way of me knowing someone. I thought I'd really known someone, but it turned out to be all lies. It hurt really badly.
But as far as my mom, I'd learned the lying from her without even realizing it, and gave it right back. I have no reason to lie to anyone else, and therefore I do not lie to anyone else, so don't take from this "Oh, Alexa's a liar!" Not true at all. I am one of the most straight forward and honest people that you will meet. But I've learned from lies, and they have changed me, they have made me be a more honest person and have shown me first-hand the destruction they can cause. They've ruined families, lives, loves, and nations.
Don't let them ruin you.
Unlike some people, you actually can admit that you do lie just like everyone else. Lying is a horrible thing especially when it's for the wrong reasons. I've gotten put into situations where I've gotten hurt because of lies. It's not a good place to be in, but I completely understand where you're coming from.
ReplyDeletelying is a really hard thing to balance out, and Letting a lie go to far can result in huge messes although your honesty is refreshing, and its the part about friends is so true. You don't have any idea how good of friends you have until there the're for you, whether its talking something out or just making you feel better.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on lying. I lied to my mom as well when i was younger (always got caught as well). But the older you get you relize that lies can really do damage, but there are some who still do it cause they know no better. I know a few like that and I can never trust what they say because they are 95% of the time lying. The sad thing is they believe their own lies. It takes a person to say that they have lied, but they have learned from it. I do get where you are coming from.
ReplyDeleteEveryone lies agreed. Will we ever stop, I doubt it, but if I was in your position I would of lied to my mom also.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I think everyone should admit that they lie at certain times for "good reasons". I hate when people lie to me and then I find out. Its like duh do people think the truth won't eventually come out?
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